Healing Anger

HEALING ANGER This is a longer blog than usual since we have been in what seems like an eternity of fear, anger and sorrow. It’s important to see the benefit of growth, even if it’s painful. Abraham Maslow reminds us: In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety. He reminds us that pain is often life teaching us something. Yet when we are in pain, this is when we are most resistant to that belief. “No! Take it away!” I see this current climate of division, tribal loyalty and even outright hate as one of the biggest teaching moments in my lifetime. I know about Hitler and the Holocaust, but I only know by reading and feeling shock and empathy for our human ability to hate and hurt. It is the same for slavery, but I saw what happened… MORE

Turn Holiday Grief to Peace

December 2014 Blog Turn Holiday Grief to Peace   Because I write and teach about grief and the heart, I get many calls this time of year from people who are suffering more deeply around the holidays. I ask that all of you who know someone like this take the time to listen, hug and have compassion for those who have suffered loss. That’s all they are asking for. They know you can’t “cure” their grief, but your kindness eases them. Remember that loss can be other then death. Sometimes it is loss of health, divorce, moving, financial losses or a multitude of other issues that live below the surface. All of us know someone—including, very often, ourselves—who suffer their losses more deeply at this time of year. Here are a few tips to help them, and ourselves, to feel more at peace during this time of year. The death… MORE