Conversational Tools to Transform Home and Work

If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing. Marc Chagall, Artist Our lives are a creation of our own personal intentions. It is as if we are painting our lives, or composing our lives, with an artist’s eye. As Marc Chagall famously said, art doesn’t work if it comes from the head—or the intellect. The heart has to be the fundamental source of our creations. This is true of daily interactions with friends, co-workers, family and our partners. It is also true of daily contact with those around us—like the check-out person at the grocery store, or the waitress at our favorite restaurant. The basic necessity for this kind of interaction is heart awareness. When we are heart aware, as we will be when using the tools I’m sharing, our casual and intimate conversations will be more coherent, honest and result in good… MORE

Bring Your Heart to Work

It’s time to recognize the strength and power of the human heart. It is not a false hope or a fallacy. Our hearts are the center of our being, creating a coherent and courageous place to go for true awareness and feedback in every sector of our lives. Today we’ll focus on the workplace, where we have been encouraged to leave our heart in the closet. The heart referred to is the made-up valentine heart of lace and sentimentality—not the powerful engine of our body that contains neurons that reveal our emotional strengths and vulnerabilities to us through our feelings and send messages to the brain concerning those feelings. MORE

Having a Coherent Conversation for Optimum Results

A key component of my work with clients is around the HeartMath® tool called the Coherent Communication™ Technique. This way of being in the flow with others will remove the drama from daily or ultra-sensitive conversations. One thing that is also an issue is the constant rehashing (going over again and again) of the situation that has disturbed you. This issue of post-communication energy drain is as big as the original issue of the conversation. The following steps work well in all situations where we are having a difficult interaction. In today’s business and political climate, dread of conversational blow-ups is substantially increased. When you have internalized this important tool, the drain on your battery will stop and you will again build energy reserves. Each time you have a successful communication, this energy will grow. MORE

Understanding and Accomplishing Coherence

Coherence is a state that has often been called “being in flow.” It is when the heart, mind, body and emotions are all working in sync, leading us to flow through life with intelligence, peace and composure. We are able to handle our daily interactions with clarity and maintain our energetic presence. HeartMath® views our energetic presence on a daily basis as a battery. Each thought, intention, action, and reaction either adds to the energy in our battery or depletes our energy. MORE

A Change of Heart

Pause before you act! One of the HeartMath® tools my clients find most useful— in personal and business choices—is the Freeze Frame® Technique.  Use it before engaging in an action which could drain your energy or lead to a poor choice. You will be more effective in a conversation, a meeting or a stress-possible situation. Step 1: Acknowledge the problem or issue and any attitudes or feelings about it. Step 2: Focus your attention in the area of your heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. (Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds if this is more comfortable.) MORE

Good News! We’re Home!!

For those of you who thought we fell off the face of Mother Earth, have no fear! We are here–it was our website that had to be brought back to life. We have moved to Jacksonville, Florida, where my three daughters work and thrive. We are working out of offices at Breaking Ground Contracting (which also has an education division) owned by my daughter Mary. Last night we were hosted at a meet and greet there. What a wonderful community and support system! Already I have been blessed to speak to groups from women in construction to a veterinary staff to, soon, a coaching group here in town. Once we learn how to get around in a river city–rather than one bound by the Gulf of Mexico–we’ll be good to go. Lance was hit by a drunk driver a couple of years ago, and life had consisted of doctors, lawyers,… MORE

Compassion

COMPASSION Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is a always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone. ~ Miller Williams   This is a poem I have used over the years in my books and articles, but one that is particularly needed right now. And Miller’s daughter, Lucinda, has just put out a double album titled “Where the Spirit Meets the Bone.” Since he is one of my top five favorite writers and she one of my top five favorite musicians, an article is in order. But what more can I say that he has not said in this piece? I think the key thoughts are: even if they don’t want it and… MORE

Blog Tour

Blog Tour  July 15, 2014   A heart-friend, Elaine Mansfield, invited me to join a blog tour begun by Jean Raffa. Since I am a first time tour participant, Elaine was kind enough to lead me through the process. She writes with a strong sense of place and is connected deeply to her home and her civic involvement. Elaine is a life-long student of philosophy mythology, Jungian psychology and the spiritual traditions from many cultures and she used her knowledge as a women’s health counselor for 25 years. However, after the death of her husband in 2008, her studies turned to healthy grieving and creating a new and fertile life for herself. The result is that she now facilitates hospice support groups for women who have lost partners. She also writes for the Hospicare and Palliative Care of Tompkins County newsletter and website and helps others find the spiritual core… MORE

Greatfulness

Gratitude Today, I remember to be grateful. What a small thing that seems to be, but in the midst of the mind and media chatter of my days, it’s something I have to be mindful of. A practice of gratitude is so easy and super rewarding. As I think of the first thing I am grateful for, a waterfall of people, places and happenings flow into my heart. It becomes difficult to slow them down and savor them as they arrive. Knowing that everything I experience is a gift certainly adds to the volume! For those of you who noticed my absence, I have been studying to become a certified HeartMath trainer. Last week, I received my certificate and license and I am now authorized to work with groups—corporate, non-profit and people in my own practice and workshops. Because I believe so heartfully in the work of HeartMath, it has… MORE