Healing our Global Grief

Healing Our Global Grief Day after day I hear the politicians and various religious leaders pronounce that we “must unite” the country. Before we look for solutions, we must identify the major things that divide us. Then we can look at how we begin to unite in a conscious effort, even if that unification is limited. I have to admit that in my generations on this planet I don’t remember people being united. Democrat vs Republican reverberates through recent history. My religion is the only “True” religion. My part of the country is better than yours. Our family came over on the Mayflower, yours doesn’t belong here. Or the other variation: now that I’m here, let’s close the gates. If I sound discouraged, there is good reason. Public discourse and public actions have led to a high level of stress and inappropriate or downright dangerous actions. We have gone beyond… MORE

Healing Anger

HEALING ANGER This is a longer blog than usual since we have been in what seems like an eternity of fear, anger and sorrow. It’s important to see the benefit of growth, even if it’s painful. Abraham Maslow reminds us: In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety. He reminds us that pain is often life teaching us something. Yet when we are in pain, this is when we are most resistant to that belief. “No! Take it away!” I see this current climate of division, tribal loyalty and even outright hate as one of the biggest teaching moments in my lifetime. I know about Hitler and the Holocaust, but I only know by reading and feeling shock and empathy for our human ability to hate and hurt. It is the same for slavery, but I saw what happened… MORE

Safe in the Light

10/5/2018 Today is a day that will live in infamy for women and those who love them. This morning I recited a mantra from the Oracle Cards that said: “It is safe for me to be seen. I shine my light.” This afternoon that became an untruth. One of only three women allowed to serve as a Republican Senator, confirmed we are not safe. Her name is Susan Collins. Senator Grassley, Republican head of the judiciary committee was asked why there were no women on the Republican side of the committee. He said that it was hard work, and required going to meetings. My past life as a mother, PTA mom, Little League chauffeur and cook and employee was denied. As a woman, I must be too weak to attend meetings! Given the presence of Democrats on the committee, does that mean Democratic women are tougher? After the vote of… MORE

I’ve Been Thinking

Shocking! I admit that I’ve been reading Ursula LeGuin again, and she always gets my brain stirred up. She reminded me, in a satirical essay titled “Introducing Myself” from her wonderful book The Wave in the Mind, that we’re the last generation who remembers when women were “he.” Ms. LeGuin is one of those writers I go to when I want to be stimulated emotionally or intellectually or just have a good read. So, I am old enough to remember when we were up in arms about the meaning of he/her and the absolute absence of the feminine pronoun in our founding documents and everything else leading to the upheaval of the 1960s. All men are created equal, being only one example. Even that didn’t mean ALL men. She writes about the desire to live up to the label of man as a woman in American society. She reminds us:… MORE

Conversational Tools to Transform Home and Work

If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing. Marc Chagall, Artist Our lives are a creation of our own personal intentions. It is as if we are painting our lives, or composing our lives, with an artist’s eye. As Marc Chagall famously said, art doesn’t work if it comes from the head—or the intellect. The heart has to be the fundamental source of our creations. This is true of daily interactions with friends, co-workers, family and our partners. It is also true of daily contact with those around us—like the check-out person at the grocery store, or the waitress at our favorite restaurant. The basic necessity for this kind of interaction is heart awareness. When we are heart aware, as we will be when using the tools I’m sharing, our casual and intimate conversations will be more coherent, honest and result in good… MORE

Bring Your Heart to Work

It’s time to recognize the strength and power of the human heart. It is not a false hope or a fallacy. Our hearts are the center of our being, creating a coherent and courageous place to go for true awareness and feedback in every sector of our lives. Today we’ll focus on the workplace, where we have been encouraged to leave our heart in the closet. The heart referred to is the made-up valentine heart of lace and sentimentality—not the powerful engine of our body that contains neurons that reveal our emotional strengths and vulnerabilities to us through our feelings and send messages to the brain concerning those feelings. MORE