Conversational Tools to Transform Home and Work

If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing.
Marc Chagall, Artist

Our lives are a creation of our own personal intentions. It is as if we are painting our lives, or composing our lives, with an artist’s eye. As Marc Chagall famously said, art doesn’t work if it comes from the head—or the intellect. The heart has to be the fundamental source of our creations. This is true of daily interactions with friends, co-workers, family and our partners. It is also true of daily contact with those around us—like the check-out person at the grocery store, or the waitress at our favorite restaurant. The basic necessity for this kind of interaction is heart awareness. When we are heart aware, as we will be when using the tools I’m sharing, our casual and intimate conversations will be more coherent, honest and result in good outcomes. The combination of awareness of our energy as a carrier of emotions and our ability to communicate with heart-based intention creates a life filled with the flow I talked about in my last blog describing coherence. It’s a good idea to remember on a daily basis what coherence is: the heart, mind, body and emotions are all working in sync, filling our battery with energy. MORE

Bring Your Heart to Work

It’s time to recognize the strength and power of the human heart. It is not a false hope or a fallacy. Our hearts are the center of our being, creating a coherent and courageous place to go for true awareness and feedback in every sector of our lives. Today we’ll focus on the workplace, where we have been encouraged to leave our heart in the closet. The heart referred to is the made-up valentine heart of lace and sentimentality—not the powerful engine of our body that contains neurons that reveal our emotional strengths and vulnerabilities to us through our feelings and send messages to the brain concerning those feelings. MORE

Having a Coherent Conversation for Optimum Results

A key component of my work with clients is around the HeartMath® tool called the Coherent Communication™ Technique. This way of being in the flow with others will remove the drama from daily or ultra-sensitive conversations. One thing that is also an issue is the constant rehashing (going over again and again) of the situation that has disturbed you. This issue of post-communication energy drain is as big as the original issue of the conversation. The following steps work well in all situations where we are having a difficult interaction. In today’s business and political climate, dread of conversational blow-ups is substantially increased. When you have internalized this important tool, the drain on your battery will stop and you will again build energy reserves. Each time you have a successful communication, this energy will grow. MORE

Understanding and Accomplishing Coherence

Coherence is a state that has often been called “being in flow.” It is when the heart, mind, body and emotions are all working in sync, leading us to flow through life with intelligence, peace and composure. We are able to handle our daily interactions with clarity and maintain our energetic presence. HeartMath® views our energetic presence on a daily basis as a battery. Each thought, intention, action, and reaction either adds to the energy in our battery or depletes our energy. MORE

A Change of Heart

Pause before you act! One of the HeartMath® tools my clients find most useful— in personal and business choices—is the Freeze Frame® Technique.  Use it before engaging in an action which could drain your energy or lead to a poor choice. You will be more effective in a conversation, a meeting or a stress-possible situation. Step 1: Acknowledge the problem or issue and any attitudes or feelings about it. Step 2: Focus your attention in the area of your heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. (Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds if this is more comfortable.) MORE

Make Your Own Choices!

As a HeartMath® Trainer, Counselor, SIT™ Practitioner, Coach, Grief Counselor and author, I am often asked what I find most useful in the day-to-day navigation of life. What I learned over the years was often taught unconsciously through being a daughter, a spouse, a mother, a professional woman and someone active in my community. Without a map, I seemed to navigate through the heart. I never, ever, believed in the superiority of the brain, though throughout my life I have continued my education and my search for knowledge. It always seemed to me that in my quiet moments of contemplation—and with six children those were rare—my heart and intuition could guide my emotional life in a way the brain could not. That’s why, after my son died a violent death at the age of eleven, the advice and direction of counselors fell on deaf ears. Intellectual dissection of my emotional… MORE