Being in a World of Doing

Being in a World Obsessed with Doing                                                                            by Therese Tappouni Thoughts are our inner senses   Meister Eckhart When I began this blog, I had no idea that within 48 hours Lance and I would be driving through an intersection two blocks from home and be slammed by a speeding car blowing through a stop sign. My intent of writing about “being” turned into days of “doing:” insurance, tow companies, doctors, monitoring levels of pain and paying attention to emotional issues around “Why me?” I have always said “Why NOT me?” but saying it and believing it are different areas of the brain/body system. I advise my clients that comparing their wounds to those of others is a useless endeavor and leads nowhere. All of my teaching tools are coming in handy! And, because of another setback to my mobility, the subject for this blog speaks to me even more convincingly.… MORE

Resilience in Challenging Times

At stressful times in my life—illness, loss of loved ones, divorce—I have always turned to the mystical. It wasn’t until I trained in HeartMath® that I found solid footing in the ways of the heart that backed up my mystical propensities. The scientists at the HeartMath® Institute spent years studying the physical, mental and emotional experiences generated, and reflected by the body heart, in the energy of the body. Their research showed beyond a doubt that what we feel emotionally—not what we think—expresses in our attitudes, health and stress levels. As I began training clients, I saw unbelievable changes once the tools were applied to this new system. No longer were people with PTSD or grief or pain trying to “think away” their situations with positive thoughts. They now knew a better way. Continuing discoveries of the similarities of the heart’s magnetic field and the earth’s magnetic field, and how… MORE

Maximizing Your Creativity

Maximizing Your Creativity Individuality and Creativity are closely linked. Finding your creative voice is a matter of getting to know who you truly are—at a deep level—and what you most desire to accomplish or project in life. Being creative means using every facet of mind and heart to create your life in the world. As Mary Oliver wrote: “The most regretful people on earth are those who felt the call to creative work, who felt their own creative power restive and uprising, and gave to it neither power nor time.” This regret can be addressed no matter how old we are. It isn’t about art, but the art of life. We ARE the creators of our own life. There’s no doubt in my mind that I have found out how to begin to say something in my own voice.  Virginia Woolf, July 26, 1922 When Virginia Woolf wrote this, she… MORE

The Creative Power of the Heart Brain

Discovering the Creative Power of the Heart-Brain We are drowning in facts, factoids, lies, rumors and multiple offers of redemption and transformation—from diets to gurus. In order to focus and know who and what we are meant to be on this planet, we have to trim the waste. Much as a forest can’t breathe when the trees and bushes overwhelm the land, neither can we breathe when information runs riot through our daily lives. So we, too, need a clearing away of the brush to reveal the true shape and purpose of our lives. If this sounds like a big order, it is. It is because it is our life’s work, not a day, a week or a month’s project. We like being told we can make changes “overnight” to a life that has formed itself for multiple years. We can envision these changes in a short period of time,… MORE

The Place of Beauty in a World of Crisis

The Place of Beauty in a World in Crisis Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground. Rumi Beauty is our sustenance and our purpose. We know when we are in the beauty of nature, dance, music, good writing or art that our spirits rise up and our souls find satisfaction. Beauty has its own energetic vibration that passes between the observed and the observer. When we see the face of a beloved—whether a child, lover or parent—our heart sends waves of energy to the beloved. Who has not experienced that indrawn breath at the landscape we love, whether mountains, redwoods, deserts or plains? One person’s idea of beauty is not always that of another, but we recognize the energy as each of us beholds our own particular idea of beauty. Yet, today, as I write about when… MORE

The Power of Gratitude

The Power of Gratitude Gratitude is not a thought—it’s a behavior. Thoughts don’t reach the heart, but feelings and emotions triggered by gratitude go straight to our heart’s center. The science is certain, and you can check that out by reading about HeartMath®. Or you can rely on your body feeding back to you what your emotions are telling it. Emotions are “stirred” in the body by memory, anticipation or in-the-moment experiences of love, fear, anger or any other feeling. You know it’s not a thought because the whole body becomes wrapped up in the feeling. A thought can arouse the feelings, but we “feel” emotions in every system of the body. Fear arouses fight or flight symptoms, including the physical signs such as shaking, sweating, and shortness of breath. Love arouses a completely different set of feelings, such as warmth, a sense of connection, reaching out, even joy. Your… MORE

Making Meaning of the Holy Days Therese Tappouni

We need cool heads, warm hearts and the guidance of our Holy Ones as we navigate the new world we now inhabit. This post takes into consideration the shift in the world and the upcoming Holy Days of major religions which are celebrated by millions. Each holiday celebrates the birth or anniversary of a beloved person or a passing year. Our heart quietly asks, beneath the hub-bub of sales pitches, to remember why we do this. In stark contrast to the constant “buy, buy, buy” emanating from our televisions, radios, internets and families, is the quiet story of a Jewish family journeying to Bethlehem to register with the tax man and birth a child. This event changed the world as it was perceived. The message of Peace on Earth and Good Will towards All has reverberated down the centuries, becoming a distorted message of “good will only to those who… MORE

TIME TO BREATHE

TIME TO BREATHE by Therese Tappouni Stress had its way with America during this election. Though we are now taking stock and asking what’s next, we need to pause, regroup and heal. For those who do not know me well, my work involves teaching grief recovery, stress recovery and the spiritual path known as the everyday life. I counsel those who are grieving their losses and learning to move on. I’ve written many times that this schism in our country is causing grief, which expresses as depression, stress and anger. This morning I awoke to the news of another horrific mass shooting. This article is not specifically about that—I have written about this subject often—but grief expresses in the body exactly the same way whether it’s the loss of people, the loss of a belief, or the horrific violence we see on the news. Survivors suffer and the everyday citizen… MORE

Healing our Global Grief

Healing Our Global Grief Day after day I hear the politicians and various religious leaders pronounce that we “must unite” the country. Before we look for solutions, we must identify the major things that divide us. Then we can look at how we begin to unite in a conscious effort, even if that unification is limited. I have to admit that in my generations on this planet I don’t remember people being united. Democrat vs Republican reverberates through recent history. My religion is the only “True” religion. My part of the country is better than yours. Our family came over on the Mayflower, yours doesn’t belong here. Or the other variation: now that I’m here, let’s close the gates. If I sound discouraged, there is good reason. Public discourse and public actions have led to a high level of stress and inappropriate or downright dangerous actions. We have gone beyond… MORE