A Change of Heart

Pause before you act! One of the HeartMath® tools my clients find most useful— in personal and business choices—is the Freeze Frame® Technique.  Use it before engaging in an action which could drain your energy or lead to a poor choice. You will be more effective in a conversation, a meeting or a stress-possible situation. Step 1: Acknowledge the problem or issue and any attitudes or feelings about it. Step 2: Focus your attention in the area of your heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. (Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds if this is more comfortable.) MORE

Make Your Own Choices!

As a HeartMath® Trainer, Counselor, SIT™ Practitioner, Coach, Grief Counselor and author, I am often asked what I find most useful in the day-to-day navigation of life. What I learned over the years was often taught unconsciously through being a daughter, a spouse, a mother, a professional woman and someone active in my community. Without a map, I seemed to navigate through the heart. I never, ever, believed in the superiority of the brain, though throughout my life I have continued my education and my search for knowledge. It always seemed to me that in my quiet moments of contemplation—and with six children those were rare—my heart and intuition could guide my emotional life in a way the brain could not. That’s why, after my son died a violent death at the age of eleven, the advice and direction of counselors fell on deaf ears. Intellectual dissection of my emotional… MORE

Good News! We’re Home!!

For those of you who thought we fell off the face of Mother Earth, have no fear! We are here–it was our website that had to be brought back to life. We have moved to Jacksonville, Florida, where my three daughters work and thrive. We are working out of offices at Breaking Ground Contracting (which also has an education division) owned by my daughter Mary. Last night we were hosted at a meet and greet there. What a wonderful community and support system! Already I have been blessed to speak to groups from women in construction to a veterinary staff to, soon, a coaching group here in town. Once we learn how to get around in a river city–rather than one bound by the Gulf of Mexico–we’ll be good to go. Lance was hit by a drunk driver a couple of years ago, and life had consisted of doctors, lawyers,… MORE

The Intelligence of Our Body Energy

The Intelligence of Our Body Energy This morning I am feeling impatient and agitated, wondering what is going on in my emotional body to create these feelings. For a while, I leave my computer where I’m trying to work on my latest book, and sit in silence. Since I am a HeartMath® Trainer, the first tool I go to is my heart, asking the question: “What is the source of this aggravating buzzing energy?” I reflect on my day so far, and nothing reveals itself. I look back to last night and realize I didn’t sleep well. I tossed and turned and found it difficult to concentrate on my usual meditation. So, what did I do before bed? What energetic thoughts or feelings did I allow into my space? And why? My training leaves no doubt about the importance of surrounding myself with positive energy. Everyone and everything carries an… MORE

Turn Holiday Grief to Peace

December 2014 Blog Turn Holiday Grief to Peace   Because I write and teach about grief and the heart, I get many calls this time of year from people who are suffering more deeply around the holidays. I ask that all of you who know someone like this take the time to listen, hug and have compassion for those who have suffered loss. That’s all they are asking for. They know you can’t “cure” their grief, but your kindness eases them. Remember that loss can be other then death. Sometimes it is loss of health, divorce, moving, financial losses or a multitude of other issues that live below the surface. All of us know someone—including, very often, ourselves—who suffer their losses more deeply at this time of year. Here are a few tips to help them, and ourselves, to feel more at peace during this time of year. The death… MORE

Compassion

COMPASSION Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is a always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone. ~ Miller Williams   This is a poem I have used over the years in my books and articles, but one that is particularly needed right now. And Miller’s daughter, Lucinda, has just put out a double album titled “Where the Spirit Meets the Bone.” Since he is one of my top five favorite writers and she one of my top five favorite musicians, an article is in order. But what more can I say that he has not said in this piece? I think the key thoughts are: even if they don’t want it and… MORE

Blog Tour

Blog Tour  July 15, 2014   A heart-friend, Elaine Mansfield, invited me to join a blog tour begun by Jean Raffa. Since I am a first time tour participant, Elaine was kind enough to lead me through the process. She writes with a strong sense of place and is connected deeply to her home and her civic involvement. Elaine is a life-long student of philosophy mythology, Jungian psychology and the spiritual traditions from many cultures and she used her knowledge as a women’s health counselor for 25 years. However, after the death of her husband in 2008, her studies turned to healthy grieving and creating a new and fertile life for herself. The result is that she now facilitates hospice support groups for women who have lost partners. She also writes for the Hospicare and Palliative Care of Tompkins County newsletter and website and helps others find the spiritual core… MORE

Greatfulness

Gratitude Today, I remember to be grateful. What a small thing that seems to be, but in the midst of the mind and media chatter of my days, it’s something I have to be mindful of. A practice of gratitude is so easy and super rewarding. As I think of the first thing I am grateful for, a waterfall of people, places and happenings flow into my heart. It becomes difficult to slow them down and savor them as they arrive. Knowing that everything I experience is a gift certainly adds to the volume! For those of you who noticed my absence, I have been studying to become a certified HeartMath trainer. Last week, I received my certificate and license and I am now authorized to work with groups—corporate, non-profit and people in my own practice and workshops. Because I believe so heartfully in the work of HeartMath, it has… MORE

St. Valentine’s Day

Today is a day where we wish everyone love, with love usually being of the romantic kind. When I see this picture, it represents love to me. The tree that supports all kinds of love and life: family, friends, earth, the animals, birds and insects on the planet, and the planet herself. To have a day that represents love in all its guises is to ask us to remember what that feels like. Love is not many things, such as judgment, criticism, separation and superiority. Love is an open heart. A great exercise for this day is to think of someone or something that is not lovable, to your mind, and just open your heart to their heart. Lay judgment aside, and simply send love, wishing for that person or place to feel your love. Breathe into it. That’s all there is to it. You don’t have to get a response,… MORE